Does Infertility really put a strain on you’re relationship with your spouse?

This is just my own personal opinion on this subject, so take it as you will.

This is something I just do not understand, but I also have not walked in someone else’s shoes who has struggled with the strains that Infertility can put on a relationship. Yes, Nick and I have been trying to conceive for over five years, and there have been many tense moments, as well as moments of guilt on both our part.

At some point you realize that this whole process can either break you, or make you. For Nick and I, even through all the extremely hard feelings Infertility brings, (the questioning, the GUILT, this is repeated again because it’s the most common feeling, the anger, and the sadness) has done nothing but bring Nick and I closer.

Is it perfect? No. Is it hard sometimes? Yes. Do we feel bad about ourselves and give up?

Absolutely not.

Once you go through this, There is a bond that you develop during this vulnerable emotional process. You have to pick each other up. You have to be shoulder to cry on. You have to be the cheerleader when the other is down.

You fell in love with this person for a reason. You choose this person because you knew you could get through anything life has to throw at you.

I get upset when I see other women tell one another in the chat rooms and support pages that this puts a strain on marriages. A women will ask, petrified, that she hears Infertility is hard on relationships. That it changes the way you feel about each other in a bad way. Other women chip in with their stories of how Infertility ruined their relationship with their spouse, and that just kills me for that sweet, innocent, terrified person who is about to begin this process to start off with that in her mind.

It is up to you if you are going to allow it to become a strain in your marriage. Now again, not saying it is a walk in the park, but you really have to make lemonade out of lemons here. This may sound absolutely crazy, but it’s way easier to have some sort of fun with this process over all. You have to find the joy and light anywhere you can. Sometimes you have to notice the one small positive, over 5 negative. Build that bond and become #unbreakable while being #vulnerable.

#Marriage can be difficult somedays just to begin with. Anyone who acts like it is rainbows and sunshine all the time are faking it. It’s the most difficult times I believe where we can take it as an opportunity to grow and learn a little bit more about one each other. Be honest with how you are feeling, first with yourself and then with your partner. Whether you are struggling with #infertility, or your other #insecurities in your marriage. Don’t let this break you, especially Infertility.